So I'm not sure if anyone has heard of the term "Eros" love. The term has a great deal of concepts. "ORIGIN Latin, from Greek, literally ‘sexual love.’" I also like to consider it as "erotic love." This type of love is what attracts one person to another based on appearance or other external characteristics. I learned about the term when I was at one of my weakest point and it made me grow stronger, I believe, as a person. Eros love is similar to, in my opinion, being used. It's abuse, mistreating, and even fake. The truth is that people who truly love you will do anything for you whether it makes them happy or not. "The weakness with this type of love is obvious. It is based more on "self-benefit", of what can benefit you rather than the other person." "Eros love can only succeed in the long-term if it progresses into a higher form of love. " The next higher type of love is called Philos love. This type of love is the one which friends feel for one another. The important thing is that two people develop a friendship before getting into a serious or romantic relationship. Friendship is the base which is needed for such a strong thing as real love. "Philos love is a love based on "give-and-take", where two people benefit each other in a mutual way... Philos love is a mutual, "give-and take" relationship, while eros love is a self-based, form of love that is more concerned with the "self" or self-benefit." The next highest and most difficult to obtain is Agape love. Unconditional love or "Agape" is the love that comes from your parents. Meaning that they will always love you no matter what you get yourself into, what you do, and they will always ALWAYS protect you. (In most cases, I know there are exceptions). Agape love does not benefit the person in anyway but focuses on YOU rather than THEM.
In essence, eros love is "physical", philos love is "mental", and agape love is "spiritual". Thus, it is made up of the three fundamental elements of man: physical, mental and spiritual.
After I had a talk with Enold, the wonderful man who explained all of this to me, I was able to open my eyes and mind to the fact that what I had been in was not real love. It was Eros love. I'm not saying they had meant nothing to me because they had. Eros love can be unmutual, which is what I was dealing with. I was portraying Philos love.. or even more, but was not getting the same in return. I had not completely realized that until I came into this conversation. I've come to more openly accept the fact and it's been able to make me move forward. Never waste your time falling for Eros love. If the person doesn't treat you well, move on.
